A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a dear friend, and when I told her I was making a ‘forever’ decision about something, she quickly pointed out that it isn’t healthy or reasonable to make decisions on important matters in that headspace. She continued to tell me that sometimes, a decision can be good for now for today. Maybe even a few weeks, months or years, but that putting so much pressure on a lifelong commitment especially when it comes to matters of the heart is far too intimidating. (Oh, and when I talk about matters of the heart, I mean everything from our work, our families and our relationships. Because by now I’m sure you know I lead from the heart.)
Now, usually, like you, I’m sure, I’ve considered a list of things to work on in the new year. You know how it goes, less of this, more of that. Most of the time our lists are a little unreasonable, and we struggle to stay on track for more than the first couple of months of the year. So, I’ve decided to take this friends approach regarding some of the changes and the growth I want to experience in 2019. I’m not making forever decisions, but rather, every day, every week, every month, I’ll make choices that get me closer to where I want to be in my personal life and business. Some days I’ll struggle. On certain occasions, I’ll be winning. Other days I may change my mind completely. And that’s a-okay. As long as in that moment I make the decision that is right for me. I’ll be happy. Reminding myself daily that the only thing that is constant is change.
As I begin this fresh new start, I am making a promise to myself not to get caught up in the hype or new year’s resolutions. If I struggle to reach my goals along the way, I can reset. I can reset as many times as I need to. And while I think it’s important to evaluate our previous year and plan for the future, I’ll do so without the heavy burden of perfection. I’ll strive for progress, for growth, for joy.
If you’re still reading this, I hope you’ll consider making this promise to yourself too. There are no winners or losers in this game we call life. Just players who wish to make it past go and stay out of jail.